Finishing a youth hockey season that lasted for more than 6 months, it was remarkable to witness the progress. Even though this team still struggles with spacing, structure, and strategy, I think that is okay for 9-year-olds. The personal growth and development per individual skater is obvious.
The #4 seeded Flames finished their season with three losses in the EMHL playoffs. They lost to the #1, the #3, and the #5 seeds in the postseason. They played hard right through to the final whistle of the tournament even though they knew their fate had been sealed, scoring a goal in the last 40 seconds of their final game. That I love, not just because of the goal, but because they just kept playing hard, shift after shift. In essence they were making the effort to get better regardless of the outcome, or the wins, or the losses. Winning is not the only measurement for improvement.
I know that the tryout weeks for the upcoming season, which is still 5 months away, can be stressful. I believe this is mostly because Americans in general want games, and wins. They are not patient enough for practices and development of skills. Many coaches get caught up in the wins despite looking you in the eye and saying they aren’t. Actions tell the true story. These shallow measurables, especially at young ages, drive the process in almost all of the competitive youth sports. I find it interesting that this is such a big deal when only a fraction of all athletes end up playing sports in high school, college, or certainly the professional ranks. Still, so many coaches, and parents, look to circumvent league and community processes so they can load up teams and cater to the very few. It’s incredibly narrow minded, and it doesn’t even work. Nevertheless, the process re-begins at the end of hockey season, to make a team for the upcoming fall/winter.
If we’re fortunate, which I believe our group has been very fortunate, we get to tryout for a team where a coach philosophy is more about a safe place to land, and an environment that allows young kids to flourish. Instead of winning at all costs, with the costs including blowing kids out of sports entirely, strained relationships with many people in the community, and undo stress on young psyches trying to fulfill someone else’s almighty agenda. Seriously, if the best of your coaching run peaks at anything under the age of 15, who cares? Especially if winning is more important than development. Because, really, few, if any players, peak physically, mentally, and athletically before the high school ages, or more likely college age. Kids get burned out or blown out, and quit sports at all ages, even before they have a chance to fully develop as athletes and young men or young women. Then, on top of that, why would they give back to something that didn’t give anything to them in the first place.
So I choose not to get caught up in whether my player makes team one, or team two, but rather having a team for a player to land on at all. At these young ages; Who can say that the player who was ranked 15th on a roster of 15 last season, won’t be a force to be reckoned with by the time they are 15 years old? Perhaps we will never know because that player was cut from a team concerned with their won-loss record in the next season and will never play sports again. It happens that way more than you think.
Back to this team, and to the group we have enjoyed so much fun with over these several months. What a great group of people. The players have all improved. More than that, most of them have fallen in love with the sport, with the team aspect, and enjoy working hard together. That’s what it’s all about. They all played in virtually every game scenario you could imagine over the season. Line after line, shift after shift, all the kids played. They are better for it. And, if given the chance, they’ll be even better by this time next year. Best wishes to all of the 2010 Flames players and families from this team, no matter where you end up next season. Hopefully all the kids want to keep playing the wonderful sport of hockey. Our family has had a blast this season. Thank you all.
EMHL Game One
EMHL Game Two